our first wedding shower!

Yesterday (sunday....I'm a night owl, so at 3am "yesterday" is actually like two days ago), we had our first wedding "event." The Sully Famiy (longtime friends of the Hunt family) threw a wedding shower for Dave and I in the afternoon, and it was so fun because it was for families, not just the bride.

  

Let's describe what's going on here....we got two big jars of oreos and hershey kisses from Emily, a girl I babysit (what a great way to present the canisters we registered for!), a really pretty cake, and lots of little kids to play with.

My brother kept the gift list and he is such a bad speller and has sort of a small vocabulary too.
we got a bunch of wine stuff...wine, bottle openers, bottle stoppers, etc
for wine glasses, he wrote "chalisses"
for wine glass charms, he wrote "little wire circels"
he often wrote that someone gave us "a gift bag and ribbon" (which held the gift, hahah)

so he's funny.

Here are a few more pictures. I have more photos of kids playing, people talking and laughing, cooking, but they're on a different computer. So instead I'll be narcissistic and post these ones mostly of us.

as a host gift we gave them tons of potted flowers.

there were a thousand little kids there. for example, this one.

my person is vegan so I made these margarita cupcakes from Vegan Cupcakes Take Over the World. a good compliment to the mexican buffet.

opening the chalisses

an envelope of gift cards--sweet.

One thing I sort of hate about the wedding process is the difference of attention and excitement directed toward the bride versus the groom. Sometimes, for some people, the expectations for the grooms in our culture is to seem defeated, like he is giving up his social life, and has finally succombed to the pressure to settle down, choose a wife, create a romantic (expensive) proposal, participate in the wedding of her dreams, and do whatever she wants for the rest of his life. Grooms lose, brides win.

I really don't understand that, I don't believe most couples really want that kind of life, and I dont understand why the groom can't win, too. I guess that's the attitude that helped me develop my approach to our entire relationship. It's why I popped the question. (I thought, why should I wait? Why hint around trying to get him to give me what I want? Why not let him be an active participant in his own life instead of reacting to pressure?)

So, we had a wedding shower. It was great to see all of the families--moms, dads, babies, toddlers, kids, grandmas, cousins, uncles, aunts, friends, everything in between. Opening gifts given so generously to us--both of us--really made it seem so real. We're accumulating "our" things. It's just the beginning.